Ok, here it is, my opinion of this statement, it is an excuse message applied by those dwelling in worldly compassion. Using their emotions as the basis of their discernment.
I caution believers not to be drawn into this diversion from God’s law. Specifically, the first and second commandments. The God I worship is omniscient, as well omnipotent. He is all-encompassing throughout the world, not exclusively in one area. Yahuwah is not a respecter of men and is not at their beck and call.
My walk with him is not beholding to men or their customs and worldly traditions. My Neighbour might live thousands of miles from me or right next door. Who my Lord calls me to see as my neighbor is enough for me.
What those in the world fail to see is who their neighbor is. The world sees their neighbors being on the same block or right next door or as a part of their immediate life’s walk. Those who walk in agreement with their beliefs, customs, and traditions.
I ponder if our Father in heaven sees one of His children on the opposite side of the world as our neighbor? How is it, as an instrument for God’s use, we would say to Him charity begins at home!
When I study the second commandment to discern it, I pondered the depth of this command “do unto others as you would have done unto yourself!”
As I prayed the Holy Spirit revealed Matthew 18:33 KJV
Shouldest, not thou also have had compassion on thy fellowservant, even as I had pity on thee?
So, if we desire to fulfill having done to us as we would do to others, we might find an answer here.
The servant’s unreasonable severity toward his fellow servant, notwithstanding his lord’s clemency toward him. Not that we may make light of wronging our neighbor, for that is also a sin against God; but we should not aggravate our neighbour’s wronging us, nor study revenge. Let our complaints, both of the wickedness of the wicked, and of the afflictions of the afflicted, be brought to God, and left with him.
Then the Holy Spirit brought this wisdom forward; Matthew 5:44 KJV
But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you;
In the following, we will find a definition or understanding of the error within the statement “Charity Begins At Home!” Ask yourself who do we see as our neighbor? Do we define them as found in the following statement?
The Jewish teachers by “Neighbour” understood only those who were of their own country, nation, and religion, whom they were pleased to look upon as their friends. The Lord Jesus teaches that we must do all the real kindness we can to all, especially to their souls.
We must pray for them. While many will render good for good, we must render good for evil; and this will speak a nobler principle than most men act by. Others salute their brethren and embrace those of their own party, and way, and opinion, but we must not so confine our respect.
It is the duty of Christians to desire, aim at, and press towards perfection in grace and holiness. And therein we must study to conform ourselves to the example of our heavenly Father, 1 Peter 1:15, 1 Peter 1:16.
Surely more is to be expected from the followers of Christ than from others; surely more will be found in them than in others. Let us beg of God to enable us to prove ourselves his children.
I understand the humanistic few using man’s compassion and man’s wisdom to decipher rationalize and justify the statement “Charity Begins At Home”! This was the spiritual response.
Matthew 18:33-35 KJV
Shouldest not thou also have had compassion on thy fellowservant, even as I had pity on thee?  And his lord was wroth, and delivered him to the tormentors, till he should pay all that was due unto him.  So likewise shall my heavenly Father do also unto you, if ye from your hearts forgive not every one his brother their trespasses.
Let our complaints, of the wickedness of the wicked, and of the afflictions of the afflicted, be brought to God, and left with him. The master reproved his servant’s cruelty. The greatness of sin magnifies the riches of pardoning mercy, and the comfortable sense of pardoning mercy does much to dispose our hearts to forgive our brethren.
We are not to suppose that God forgives men, and afterwards reckons their guilt to them to condemn them; but this latter part of the parable shows the false conclusions many draw as to their sins being pardoned, though their after-conduct shows that they never entered into the spirit, or experienced the sanctifying grace of the gospel.
We do not forgive our offending brother aright, if we do not forgive from the heart. Yet this is not enough; we must seek the welfare even of those who offend us. How justly will those be condemned, who, though they bear the Christian name, persist in unmerciful treatment of their brethren! The humbled sinner relies only on free, abounding mercy, through the ransom of the death of Christ. Let us seek more and more for the renewing grace of God, to teach us to forgive others as we hope for forgiveness from him.
Some will say how does this apply to me being charitable and supporting a mission outside of my home country and closer yet community? When the support is given in support of one of God’s missions, it provides tools for those who are acting as physical instruments making God’s promises real.
Here is an example. The plight of the widows and Orphans in Kenya is easily set aside as it is out of sight not in any form of media making their lifes’ conditions visible nor consciously recognized, so it becomes easy to set it aside. However, when we are made aware we now reach out with a prepared and justified mental statement “Charity Begins at Home!” I ponder this statement wondering how many actually know what they are stating and why?
I wonder how many have taken the time to question why there are charity situations in a prosperous nation where individuals are thrust into life situations of despair, poverty and hopelessness. It can be understood or perhaps more acceptable when the country is fraught with corruption, publicly and politically, it is understandable those in need are left out and preyed upon as tools of the corruption.
Unfortunately, we see the same results happening in affluent Society as well. Where is the failure in these societies who have prosperity and opportunity to remove this stigma many claim their charity begins at home!
Where does the fault lie, is it in how we define who our neighbor is? When I look at the discerned content of this article in my estimation it clearly boils down to our definition of our neighbor and how we must treat them. For me it was when some of the Assemblies of God (whether worldly or Godly) abdicated their responsibility towards widows and the needy to government agencies.
My wife Bunnie Marie in conversation about this topic stated, and she is right in one way, “for there to be charity it must start in our homes, otherwise there is no charity to be had.” To clarify Bunnies statement she is referring to the fact that we must be cautious not to take from our families in order to aid others. My reply, “for charity to be in our homes we must first define who our neighbors are and where they reside, in order for our charity to be of any effect.” As pointed out in this statement; The Jewish teachers by “Neighbour” understood only those who were of their own country, nation, and religion, whom they were pleased to look upon as their friends. In my estimation, this definition of neighbor is why we have the situation we do societally today.
Because you will find it usually is, a gentle nudge from Yeshua, letting you know he’s there covering your back, as your Silent Companion. May our Father abundantly fill your plates. God’s blessings Let the high praises of God be in their mouth, and a two-edged sword in their hands. Psalm 149:6
“Know ye not, that to whom ye yield yourselves servants to obey, his servants ye are to whom ye obey; whether of sin unto death or of obedience unto righteousness? But God is thanked, that ye were the servants of sin, but ye have obeyed from the heart that form of doctrine which was delivered you. Being then made free from sin, ye became the servants of righteousness. (Romans 6:16- 18)
“Our Lord laid not his life down for his doctrine, but for his sheep.” Matthew Henry (1662 -1774) commentary on John 10.
Father in heaven hear my prayers as I lay your servants before your throne. I ask you, Lord, as an unseen companion, to raise your children up when they might stumble and fall. To Be there as our Father when times are filled with turmoil, but more than anything Lord show your children the depth of your love and compassion as you journey with them. In little ways, Father let them, sense or feel your presence as they go forward in your name searching for that one lost soul.
So they might be filled with the confidence they are covered and blessed. Bring them before your throne, Lord, so they might witness your reflection and recognize what a silent companion is to them, a shepherd tending his flock. We pray in your name Yeshua Amen and Amen.